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Olive You Frequently Asked Questions

• How do I read OliveYou in my language?
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• The interests that I selected aren't showing up in the list.
  Only the most popular 10% of interests are listed. When enough people choose the same interests as you, it will be listed.
• Why are there separate fields for gender and orientation?
  Research has shown gender and orientation are distinctly different. One can be male, and have any number of orientations. The 'likes androgynes' orientation is not technically a recognized orientation, but was included for completeness. Likewise, the 'androgyne' gender is not an offical gender classification, but was included for those few individuals who don't identify as either male or female. Asexual means someone who has no sexual inclinations. One can be asexual, yet still prefer the company of a specific gender. Asexual is not the same as celibate. A celibate person may still have sexual feelings, but chooses not to act on them. The autosexual orientation exists, but was not included. Someone who is autosexual is only attracted to themselves; not a useful category for a personals site! Some researchers also suggest that pedophilia or bestiality is an orientation! These are also not useful here. Along with many orientations, there are many physical sexes as well. There are too many conditions to list all forms such as MRKH syndrome, AIS, Turner's syndrome, Klinefelter's syndrome, intersexed, etc., most of which people have never heard of. Genetic testing was banned from the Olympics because of the high incidence of women with AIS (XY chromosomes)! Generic gender categories should suffice for the vast majority of people.
• How safe is my email address
  Your email will never be use for spam by OliveYou or sold to third parties. Obviously it is visible to the public, but to prevent the harvesting of addresses in bulk by spammers, it is encoded as an image with a security background which hinders OCR (optical character recognition) software. Furthermore, access to the email images are limited to 5 per minute per IP address. Still, hackers can potentially break into the system. However, it would take more effort and they are usually more concerned with credit card numbers or vandalism.
• What are Myers-Briggs personality types?
  Myers-Briggs is a descriptive personality model. Characteristics of personality are observed, and people are categorized accordingly. The four categories are how much you like to be around people (introversion/extroverion), how you process information (intuitive/sensing), how you make decisions (thinking/feeling), and how you structure your life (perceiving/judging). In each category, there is a dichotomy, I/E, N/S, T/F, and P/J. A person is categorized based on how they act most of the time. Of course there are exceptions and people do cross the line, either through will or nature. Surprisingly, these four categories combined can tell a lot about a person, and predict behaviors, careers, interests, etc.
• How does Myers-Briggs personality types relate to compatibility?
  There is much research on this, but the results are sometimes inconclusive and contradictory. There aren't obvious matches either. Usually other factors play a more important role, such as religion, wealth, race, etc. Also, two conflicting types may still develop a relationship through hard work and dedication. For example, the hallmark of a xxxJ is punctuality. When paired with a xxxP, there are bound to be fights over "Who's late?" and "Who cares?". Through recognizing those differences and accepting them, those people can still develop a relationship. Having the same type can virtually garauntee chemistry at first. People with the same type tend to have similar interests. For example, ESxJ tend to be civil minded, while xNTx tend to like science fiction. But even with similar interests, those people might have irreconcilable differences, such as religion or habits. Try the following combinations, and explore what type of people you seem to get along with best. These four groups of people may seem to get along with other types in the same group the best: ENTP ISFP ESFJ INTJ, ENFJ ISTJ ESTP INFP, ESFP INTP ENTJ ISFJ, ESTJ INFJ ENFP ISTP. Find your type and then search for people with the 4 types in your group, including your own.
• Where can I find more information about Myers-Briggs?
  There are actually more accurate personality models, but none are as popular or practical as the MBTI because the MBTI has only four letters rather than a bunch of numbers.
  • personalitypage.com
  • typelogic.com
  • socionics.com
  • haleonline.com
  • centacs.com (Comparison with Big5)
• Where did the name Olive You come from?
  A dear close friend of the owner once wrote a note saying "olive you". It took a while for the meaning to get across. It is a homonym for "I love you". The person who wrote the note was the type who has a hard time expressing their feelings (INTJ).
• What is biorhythm compatibility? What are biorhythms?
  Biorhythms are cycles which start when we are born. There are 3 important cycles: physical (23 days), emotional (28 days), and mental (33 days). The cycles follow a sine wave. Theory states that one is strong and capable on physical peaks, secure and happy on emotional peaks, and alert and keen on mental peaks. On the troughs, one could be more susceptible to disease, clumsy, needy, depressed, foggy, or less aware. Biorhythm compatibility is determined by finding out how closely two people's cycles are in synch. A percentage is determined for all three cycles, then averaged. It is assumed that if two people experience the same highs and lows at the same time, they have a better chance of forming a stronger relationship. [Technical] The phase difference between two cycles is turned into a percentage by multiplying the two equations for the cycle, then finding the maximum value with derivatives. A general equation can be developed by finding the day which yields the maximum value in terms of the phase difference, replacing that expression back into the original equations which are multiplied together, and simplifying. The result is (1 + cos (2*pi*d/p))/2 where d is the phase difference in days and p is the period of the cycle. The same equation can be developed by taking one cycle's area over half the period divided by the other (using integrals).
• What is your privacy policy?
  No personal information will be sold to third parties. No email addresses will be sold to third parties. However, if you respond to an email sent by another member, they will see your email address.
• How do the instant messaging links work?
  You must be logged into the user's preferred IM client before clicking on the links. A window should open with the recipient's IM handle, for you to send a message.